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Cake day: June 12th, 2023

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  • When I lived in the dorms in college, I saw everyone around me getting care packages from their parents, and I felt sad because my parents’ gift to me was that I could take some hangars for my clothes, but not the nice ones. I went to my girlfriends house and when her mom realized I didn’t really have much food in my dorm room, she took me into her pantry and started loading up bags of food for me, including just so many cans of pineapples. It was such a touching gesture that made me feel loved, especially considering she was definitely less well off than my parents. I ate so many pineapples that I got very sick of them, but I still think about cans of pineapple with great fondness.


  • This sounds like a great first step for him. I’m guessing it doesn’t feel great that support for you is conditional on you receiving mental health counseling. There are a few conditions that might look like gender dysphoria but are not (Dissociative Identity Disorder, in which a person has multiple parts living in the same brain, some of which may be a different gender, and Borderline Personality Disorder may lead some people to constantly switch identities), but generally speaking, and even with those disorders, it’s best practice to trust the person that says they are transgender and support them however they need.

    Mental health counseling may still be a good idea for you. First, it’s good to establish a relationship with a mental health provider who can write letters of support for you to give to pcps and surgeons to help you receive any care you might need. Second, transgender people often have co-occurieg mental health issues. This is largely due to your identity being rejected during childhood, which causes gender minority stress. Some have theorized that DBT (dialectical behavioral therapy) might be a good fit for people with gender dysphoria. And mindfulness, anecdotally, has been very good for me personally dealing with dysphoria. It is not a replacement for transitioning, though. A self guided transition still has the most evidence supporting its efficacy. And mental health should not be a prerequisite to transition related healthcare, even though it unfortunately is sometimes.

    I am a social work student, not a mental health professional, so take what I say with a big grain of salt.


  • I’m officially off of arch now and back on debian, my first and true linux love. I used to love arch for the AUR, but I had a couple of AUR packages that took so long to upgrade, they were basically un-upgradeable. I switched from i3 on X to sway on Wayland at the same time, so I can’t say how much of my issues were that, but various small issues are no longer issues, like better Playstation controller support. And I don’t have to restart every time I update repositories because I’m not constantly upgrading the Linux kernel. And there are so many .deb packages! But sincerely, thank you arch community. I still use the arch wiki.



  • What was difficult was the constant security checks, it happened like every time I changed devices and occasionally things were encrypted and unable to be read, it felt totally unusable. It’s true that I don’t quite get docker, I have a few services that run on dcker, but most of them run straight on arch. Yes I know arch isn’t ideal for servers, I’ll fix it next summer during school break










  • Last year my wife said “most games can be run on Linux now because of steam deck, I think I’ll switch to Linux” and I said “well I guess I’m switching too” so I un-installed windows, and I’ve been full time since, even starting to self host jellyfin and nextcloud. She and I have both done linux in the past, but gaming was what was holding us back. There wasn’t anything WRONG with windows per se , except maybe the looming threat of windows 11, I just really love linux, open source, and being able to easily lift up the hood to peek inside

    I use arch BTW. And Debian, my first love.



  • the Death Stars are mostly hallow

    Our Death Star, who art in heaven,

    Hallowed be thy name,

    Thy empire come, thy will be done,

    On Alderaan as it is in heaven,

    Give us this day our daily rations,

    And forgive us our rebellion,

    As we forgive those who rebel against us,

    And lead us not to the light side,

    But deliver us from the Jedi,

    For thine is the empire, and the unlimited power, and the dark side forever,

    Amen