The writer got mad when a goblin shoved Astarion off a cliff. It reminded me of when I had Karlach shove a goblin in lava, then a goblin ran up and shoved HER in the lava. I didn’t get mad; I took it as a learning moment: enemies can shove me back, so move away from the lava.
“We’ve got both kinds of music here. Country and western”
My dude if you don’t like DND you probably won’t like its brother Pathfinder. There are many, many, rpgs out there that aren’t a close relative. Pbta is huge. Fate is old but good. Gurps has been around forever. WoD/CofD is dear to me.