If the friends in the group chat don’t hit you up individually to let you know about those things, then why would you want to spend time with them in the first place?
Because most of the time they’re not leaving you out because they’re doing it intentionally, but because everyone else already has the info, you’re just making it much harder to invite yourself.
I was this person. I got left out of a lot of stuff because I wouldn’t join group chats. It’s not a hill worth dying on.
I would say not inviting that person is doing it intentionally, as everyone knows that person isn’t in the group chat. Also, it does not make you much harder to invite, it’s literally just letting your friend know outside of the group chat.
If your friends leave you out of things for this reason, they don’t want to hang out with you very much.
I’m 21 and a decent amount of my friends assume I’m already in the group chats where plans are made, and when they remember I’m not, push me to get an iPhone instead of switching to a platform where I can be included. It’s shitty, but everyone else gets the info so it’s okay.
Even my 36-year-old cousin said she wouldn’t date anyone who didn’t have an iPhone.
At this point, I’m happy Instagram has come up as a platform everyone usually has an account on (even if it fucking sucks) just so that I am accessible for friends to easily add me to groups.
When I quit mainstream social media platforms half of my friend added me on signal and the other half agreed to just text me. Would I miss out on some group events? Maybe, but I don’t need to be in every one of them. If I want any sort of group gathering I’d just organize one.
Your cousin just sounds miserable and it’s really her loss for judging people by a tool of communication.
If the friends in the group chat don’t hit you up individually to let you know about those things, then why would you want to spend time with them in the first place?
Because most of the time they’re not leaving you out because they’re doing it intentionally, but because everyone else already has the info, you’re just making it much harder to invite yourself.
I was this person. I got left out of a lot of stuff because I wouldn’t join group chats. It’s not a hill worth dying on.
I would say not inviting that person is doing it intentionally, as everyone knows that person isn’t in the group chat. Also, it does not make you much harder to invite, it’s literally just letting your friend know outside of the group chat.
If your friends leave you out of things for this reason, they don’t want to hang out with you very much.
I’m 21 and a decent amount of my friends assume I’m already in the group chats where plans are made, and when they remember I’m not, push me to get an iPhone instead of switching to a platform where I can be included. It’s shitty, but everyone else gets the info so it’s okay.
Even my 36-year-old cousin said she wouldn’t date anyone who didn’t have an iPhone.
At this point, I’m happy Instagram has come up as a platform everyone usually has an account on (even if it fucking sucks) just so that I am accessible for friends to easily add me to groups.
When I quit mainstream social media platforms half of my friend added me on signal and the other half agreed to just text me. Would I miss out on some group events? Maybe, but I don’t need to be in every one of them. If I want any sort of group gathering I’d just organize one.
Your cousin just sounds miserable and it’s really her loss for judging people by a tool of communication.
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If your bills don’t remind you to pay then because you’re not on Instagram, why would you… be… paying them in the first place?
That comparison makes no sense.
I know. I was quoting the person you had responded to.
Ah, I totally misunderstood. Downvote recinded !
EDIT: I actually double misunderstood, I hadn’t even realized the guy I was responding to mentioned bill reminders at all, my bad !