I’m more of the opinion that it’s ok to use terms like dude, bro, etc. in a gender neutral way in certain situations, i feel like they reached the point where they can kinda mean anybody, but i totally understand that not everyone is gonna be comfortable with that, so i’m not against using other gender-neutral alternatives (and usually do so by default).

And yeah definitely agree about that “internet habit” of assuming everyone is a man unless told otherwise, it’s so annoying and not to mention sexist.

I wish more people were open to the idea of changing and updating their language as time goes by and as we learn more, there’s tons of ppl who don’t really get that just because their intention wasn’t negative or because it isn’t like… a slur, it doesn’t mean that what they’re saying can’t cause harm or that isn’t ignorant.

This lemmy instance i’m currently in seems pretty nice and chill, if you ever do need a place to switch to.