In small town America, if you’re not on Facebook, you simply don’t exist. Deleting my Facebook account exiled me from town gossip, community events, and even basic recognition. I became a ghost in my own life.

The context is there and it is true. My village government, the library, the schools don’t post updates to their websites, it’s all facebook. The local booster clubs and social groups are all on facebook. We do push them to post in real outlets too, and one local booster club publishes a Newsletter, but the default is facebook.

Social pressure in a lot of cases. My partner is still on Facebook for that very reason, though she has made it a point to only share queer joy on there.

Different zones on the same spectrum.