Hello, it’s what the title says. I feel like this can’t go on like this, i don’t have real friends and that’s purely because of me not feeling like showing who i really am in front of others. I’m surrounded by people whom I wouldn’t want to even talk to, because they are bigoted or merely ignorant. Instead, I think that by coming out I can get more chances to meet new people with whom I could feel comfortable talking to about my passions and ideas without being afraid to reveal my sexuality. This could also be a way to sort through the people i know around me and understand which one deserves sticking with me and which not. But this could be a bit dangerous, not to the level of risking being beaten up (maybe) but there is the risk of being marginalized by those around me, but then again if this could help me find real friends then maybe it’s kinda worth it. What do you think about this? Has it ever happened to you that you wanted to come out but were afraid of the consequences?
I think it all depends on whether or not you’re dependent on said bigoted people to live (like for example, if you’re a minor living with your queephobic parents) and how safe it’s to come out where you live.
If you live in a safe area and are already an independent adult, then i’d say yeah go for it, the freedom and happiness of being yourself and not longer having to hide is incomparable, you’ll be able to make new, better friends that accept you for who you are.
Just stay safe and prioritize your wellbeing, regardless of what choice you make.
My parents will be fine with it, but i can’t be sure about being 100% safe from others after i come out. Also it’s true that i live in a generally queerphobic area, but there are a lot of queer people too here.
I’m glad about your parents, please stay safe regarding everyone else 🖤