So I mistakingly thought the grove with the tiefling-goblin war was the main quest, because that’s what the game kept talking about.
And I didn’t see any way to continue the game outside of doing it, especially since the way North to do Wyll’s quest to get Kalrath was blocked off by a broken bridge. I eventually learned I could jump it, but I honestly didn’t think platforming was an option given that the game didn’t seem to have platforming elements.
I got stuck in the Goblin Camp on a really tough fight, as due to the game pointing me in that direction I went there without gearing up or leveling my guys, so I was only level four.
Honestly the fights were fine except for the one against Dror Hazlin, who kept killing my guys in one hit and refusing to take damage no matter what I did.
I tried attacking him from the rafters, but he was only half-way down on his health by the time he had my guys cornered and proceeded to kill them all by knocking them off the rafters.
I eventually turned down the difficulty, but found the fight unsatsifying. So I reloaded and eventually figured I could shove Dror Ragzlin down a bit and miss out on his worm.
I chose that, because the shame of using Explorer Difficult was just too great.
So, you might be wondering “What’s the problem? I found a solution”
Well I was talking to the Steam Message boards about it and they were overly toxic, accusing me of a being a troll, telling me how easy the fight was, giving non-answers like “Use Explosive Barrles” (I don’t have any) or “Hire some ogres!” (There are none around)
and when I explained why their solutions were unviable I was told I was a ragebaiter.
I just kept getting told how easy the fight was and how I’m a terrible person for asking for help.
Eventually the forum post was deleted due to how out of hand it got.
It left me in too sour a mood, because I figured, what if they’re right? What if I’m not gamer enough to properly enjoy Baldur’s Gate 3.
So now I ask on Lemmy, should I continue, or uninstall in shame?
I really do like the game, I don’t agree with every mechanic and I dislike how limited resoruces are, but I love the world and the story and would really like to see it through to the end.
If you think I should continue, then please, I ask any advice I can get for how to optimize enjoyment. Thank you.


Your mistake is giving weight to the opinions of guys who post their cheese strats to steam message boards. You aren’t less of a gamer because you haven’t learned how to cheese a fight.
You’re the one playing the game. Play it how you want.
As for tips to make it easier?
The only exception to this that I encountered was in the underdark. You take a boat to an area with an optional quest to rescue some gnomes (or dwarfs?). Forget exactly what I did (long rest, or taking the boat back again) but the gnomes had outlived their usefulness by the time I got back to them.
There is also the newspaper quest in Baldur’s Gate (Act 3) that is time sensitive. Maybe something else I forget. But I agree that the game handles that stuff incredibly poorly, largely because it has so many lies about quests framed as urgent that actually wait for you forever in stasis that you have no reasonable expectation to actually suspect anything is time sensitive.
It’s freeing Nere that’s timed. You have two long rests after you talk to him then gnomes free him and he kills them.