• MunkyNutts@lemmy.world
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    2 days ago

    My aunt had rubella, grandparents delayed taking her in until it got bad and it developed into a life long heart disease, don’t recall what it was called, but she died young in mid 30s from complications of the heart disease. Left two young children and husband behind, my grandparents never really forgave themselves for it. I think sometimes we forget that adults are just grown children feeling their way through caring for a family, and hindsight can be 20/20.

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      My parents never wasted a moment feeling bad about the things they did. My burst ear drums were the first of a few times they were willing to let me die without treatment. It took me far too long to realize how terrible they were. They only ever did anything for me if they were getting public credit for it. It was all just a show for them. For their benefit. My 20/20 hindsight is full of moments where I thought they were helping me but instead were exploiting me.

      The truth is simple. Some people shouldn’t be allowed responsibility for a fruit fly much less a child.

    • gh0stcassette@lemmy.blahaj.zone
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      “Hindsight can he 20/20” applies to forgetting a restaurant is closed on Sunday or something, not for deliberately allowing a child to die of preventable disease. They should all be prosecuted for negligent homicide.

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        I feel that, my wife had a shitty childhood, but my example just highlighted how some parents who are responsible move through life with children. At the far ends of the spectrum you have those who take their kids to the doctor over every sniffle and those who may not, thinking the child will recover, especially if that’s the experience with their other children. Don’t get me wrong I understand there are parents that are completely devoid of responsibility, concern and care for their offspring, but their are others that care for them, they just might understand or realize a potentially harmful situation when presented with it.