Passive aggressively dismissive of standard relationships while fantasizing about having multiple interested partners.
Very much seems like someone’s “sour grapes” attempt at explaining why they’re alone.
i.e. “I don’t have a SO because my views on relationships are incompatible with most, totally not because of my personality, or lack thereof.”
Every dynamic depicted here is shown with positive labels and imagery except the normal monoamorous relationship. Monoamory is depicted as neglectful and harmful, and labeled “idealized” as if the idea is absurd or unattainable.
Hell, CHEATING is depicted with less negative imagery than monoamory.
Yeah, no. It doesn’t read like that at all. All it reads like is “there are a bunch of relationship dynamics, and they’re not all going to work equally well for everyone. Here’s a handy overview!”.
I could maaaaybe agree with using “idealized” monogamy, but I don’t really agree because, in our society, monogamy IS idealized as the standard, and if you practice anything else, it’s the weird thing. In that regard you could say it may be “attacking” monogamy, but I’d say it’s simply pointing out that not everyone has to fall into the one relationship type that is most common.
There’s nothing saying cheating is good in the this. And honestly yeah, cheating is kinda weird to be on this, but I think it’s just a statement saying “this is a type of relationship, a type with one person cheating on the other.” It’s as neutral towards cheating as it is towards anything else.
If we want to nitpick, “open relationship” uses the word “affair” which has a lot of negative context, and so open relationships must be bad right? I don’t see this as endorsing anything.
Why? Wtf
Passive aggressively dismissive of standard relationships while fantasizing about having multiple interested partners.
Very much seems like someone’s “sour grapes” attempt at explaining why they’re alone.
i.e. “I don’t have a SO because my views on relationships are incompatible with most, totally not because of my personality, or lack thereof.”
Every dynamic depicted here is shown with positive labels and imagery except the normal monoamorous relationship. Monoamory is depicted as neglectful and harmful, and labeled “idealized” as if the idea is absurd or unattainable.
Hell, CHEATING is depicted with less negative imagery than monoamory.
Yeah, no. It doesn’t read like that at all. All it reads like is “there are a bunch of relationship dynamics, and they’re not all going to work equally well for everyone. Here’s a handy overview!”.
I could maaaaybe agree with using “idealized” monogamy, but I don’t really agree because, in our society, monogamy IS idealized as the standard, and if you practice anything else, it’s the weird thing. In that regard you could say it may be “attacking” monogamy, but I’d say it’s simply pointing out that not everyone has to fall into the one relationship type that is most common.
Look at cheating, then look at monoamory, then try to tell me this “guide” doesn’t have some fucked up bias.
Based on this post alone, would someone think cheating or monoamory is worse?
There’s nothing saying cheating is good in the this. And honestly yeah, cheating is kinda weird to be on this, but I think it’s just a statement saying “this is a type of relationship, a type with one person cheating on the other.” It’s as neutral towards cheating as it is towards anything else.
If we want to nitpick, “open relationship” uses the word “affair” which has a lot of negative context, and so open relationships must be bad right? I don’t see this as endorsing anything.