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Reddthat disabled downvotes too

Seems a bit crazy to me too

Thank you, very interesting data indeed!

Sounds nice!

Thank you for your comment, very interesting.

We have definitely been thinking about having two parties on each of our sides, that might be an option.

You definitely have a good point about that day being about the couple and not the other people. One of my friend got a nice sum of money from his future in-laws to finance the wedding, but then had to compromise on a few things to make them happy.

Your wedding seems to have been a great day.

I definitely get the commitment aspect, but as I said, the main issues for us is having people taking planes to come where we live for the wedding. We both have large families, and it would be nice to have them around for that day, which makes the whole thing a logistical challenge.

What we might do is two smaller scales celebration on each of our sides.

If I stay with my current SO (which I hope), we probably won’t do the one big day. Families come from two different countries, we live in a third, it would be a logistic headache, and we want to avoid to have to leave people behind.

Besides that, I’ve also noticed in my friends circles that less and less people are getting married (like 1 out of 10 more or less), mostly because people prefer to get houses first and those are quite hard to obtain. Also the prices of those things is quite high, I’ve seen weddings from 30k to 60k euros.

Great post, thanks!

Edit: You know what? You’re honestly right. I was just irritated about it and this was the most convenient place I could find to air my grievance. My apologies. I think the conversation is important but in the future I’ll aim to be less aggrieved about it and not blow it up into something more than it is.

Sounds good!

The server meta community probably

Did you have a look at mbin, mentioned in an earlier comment ? It looks quite promising too

https://github.com/MbinOrg/mbin

Have a look at https://github.com/LemmyNet/lemmy/issues/4288, hopefully the fix is released soon

Thank you for your work!

https://pornlemmy.com/ seems to have better content