Not being an open source protocol means there’s no guarantee that it’s private or secure. It’s just another thing we have to trust without being able to verify. And if something happens, can you spin up your own instance?

Also, moderation is important to keep out spam and offensive material or trolls.

sometimes people aren’t who you need them to be, and life gets hard. i’m here if you need someone new.

you’re always allowed to find new friends, you don’t have to take care of them.

in any case, good luck : )