Yes, what you describe in relation to your situation does sound hopeful on many levels, a more sustainable future as you mentioned.

And thank you so much for using some of your extremely limited time to reflect about my situation. Your input meant a lot to me.

Thank you so much for your heartening input. For the past 9-10 months it is exactly how I saw things, and in a way I had no choice. Currently, and thanks to the presence of a therapist in my life, I have the impression that I could be able to help my friend and maintain a necessary distance so I don’t loose myself in the process. Maybe. I’m still reflecting on this, as I’m sure you can tell. What is very different this time is that I have my therapist.

In a way this friend she is a sort of a “family by choice”, for lack of better words. Through time she has provided me the very needed sense of safety and security. For example, I have lived in different places within europe, and for me “going home” meant spending time at her place. It’s no coincidence that currently we live very close to each other.

So on one hand I totally understand what you say and I agree. On the other hand I kinda feel like I have an actual obligation to help her. And by that I have in mind very basic stuff as well, like food. Even at her best, she never ate well, nor enough.

Also, I wouldn’t want to neglect thanking you for sharing your personal situation. Reading about it made me wonder for a few things, and I would like to ask you about them. I am not sure how the following questions will sound. I know that at times when I was asked stuff like that I felt so confident that “I got this”, to the point I even got annoyed by the people asking. So I will allow myself to ask the following questions because I believe it’s important. You definitely don’t have to answer anything to me.

Is anyone taking care of you and/or support you? Is there a support group in your area that you (could) participate in? Do you even have the time to do anything else besides caring?