• LowExperience2368@aussie.zone
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    3 months ago

    Well. I typed something into my search bar and an instagram link of this girl who my ex is friends with popped up, didn’t do a good job at deleting it, and before I know it, I see that my ex has launched a music duo with the girl he told me not to worry about. Are they dating? Probably. The way he looks at her. The way they look at each other.

    I feel exactly how I did right after we broke up, and I thought I’d come far. I feel so fucking stupid.

    I have to cook lunch and do uni shit, but I feel guttered. At least this will help me move forward.

    • melbaboutown@aussie.zone
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      3 months ago

      Block both of them, this will just lead you back into the mental quagmire.

      Don’t worry about it. From the sounds of things she might just be the latest girl and end up in your situation too. Even if they stay together there are no guarantees things are happy behind closed doors.

    • Seagoon_@aussie.zoneOP
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      3 months ago

      don’t type “something” into search bars

      also, if you loved him be happy he is happy

      now it’s your turn to be happy 😊 hugs

      • LowExperience2368@aussie.zone
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        3 months ago

        Yep I won’t be doing that again.

        I am happy that he’s happy, even though he hurt me. But it’s just the whole why couldn’t he be happy with me thing.

        I want to be happy too.

        • dumblederp@aussie.zone
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          3 months ago

          I’ve dated plenty of lovely women where we weren’t right for each other and it was better that we split up. Nothing necessarily wrong, just not compatible.

        • oztrin@aussie.zoneEnglish
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          3 months ago

          If he didn’t want you, it’s his loss. And if he was lying to you, he’s not worth pining over. (Yeah, I know, easier said than done).
          Letting go of him will at least leave a space in your life to be happy in and of yourself, and hopefully allow someone in who’ll bring you joy.
          Now, do you have any physical mementos of the relationship? If so, is there anywhere you can burn them? Speaking from experience, that does help.

    • Duenan@aussie.zone
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      3 months ago

      Diving down into the rabbit hole won’t do you any favours.

      I don’t know how you can move on from this but just that you felt a lot more strongly about him than how he felt about you.

      I know you wanted to be happy but it doesn’t have to be with someone who wasn’t into you, it wouldn’t be worth it.

      A photo/movie is one instant snapshot of a moment. That’s all it is and you don’t need to add more into the narrative of it to make yourself feel bad about it.

      You do have to accept that he wasn’t the one but there’s plenty of others out there who would be a better match for you. It’ll take time so go slowly.

  • Seagoon_@aussie.zoneOP
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    3 months ago

    While I’m waiting for the stain on the first chair to cure some more work on the second chair has commenced. I have pulled out 40 tacks so far, another 200 to go 😵🪛

  • Seagoon_@aussie.zoneOP
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    3 months ago

    yay, I cleaned the split system filters and it works. Now I can switch off the little heaters and enjoy some real warmth. 😊

  • Baku@aussie.zoneEnglish
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    3 months ago

    I bought a temperature sensor for my room because I was curious about how cold it actually gets, and how fast it loses heat, and it’s actually not as bad as I thought it was. Doesn’t seem to go below about 12 or so, although I think that’s mostly down to body heat, the electric blanket, and my computer all slightly warming the room. But then again, my bathroom remains quite stable at around 15 regardless, so maybe there is an itty bit of insulation somewhere

    If anybody’s wondering why I don’t run the ducted heating constantly, it’s because of this:

    The temperature sensor is in the hallway, which doesn’t have a heating vent, so once you turn it on, it will pretty much run until summer, turning my room particularly for some reason into a mini marble bar (localised entirely within my bedroom! No you may not see it.), and they absolutely refuse to install either a temperature sensor into a bedroom, or a heating vent into the hallway.

    Bonus: the temperature sensor in the bathroom (no heating vent + a giant skylight):

    Tonight feels really fucking nippy though, even with the heater on, the electric blanket on full boar, and a temperature reading of 20°. It feels like -1 outside, according to the BOM boys, so I guess that’s justified

  • tombruzzo@aussie.zone
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    3 months ago

    We’re doing a sleep school for a week starting tomorrow. I hope we can get something out of it as the boys do have some trouble going to sleep and a lot of regular sleep settling advice doesn’t work because you can’t let a kid cry it out whilst there’s another kid asleep in the same room.

    At best it might feel a little like a working holiday as all meals are provided. It would be nice to spend a week where we don’t have to worry about as many things for once.

  • Rusty Raven @aussie.zoneM
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    3 months ago

    I now have 30 balls of biscuit dough chilling in the fridge. A quick bake tomorrow, then a dip in icing on Tuesday and they will be ready for work on Wednesday.

  • underwatermagpies@aussie.zone
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    3 months ago

    Every time the French national anthem plays I just hear the Brisbane Lions theme song. Great tune but seems an odd choice for a footy song, I’m sure nobody bothered to ask the French if they were cool with it.

  • underwatermagpies@aussie.zone
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    3 months ago

    I often tell Tommy Cat that he’s very good at jumping, because everyone likes a bit of positive feedback. But tonight I’ve had to admit to him that both Simone Biles (and the other gymnasts) and the Equestrian horsies are probably better jumpers than him.

    He might need to stick to the Olympic events of Napping and Being Fluffy.

  • Pilk@aussie.zone
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    3 months ago

    It seems Judo is the sport to watch if you want to see blood, people being choked out, or elbows being bent the wrong way.