Thank you for sharing this… I like really needed this and opened lemmy in the middle of a really bad depressive episode and this was on top of my feed… Saving this for future me and friends.
I hope you don’t mind me sharing something I’ve learned that I think is truly fascinating and very powerful: If you can recognize your negative “automatic thoughts” and what triggers them, and then argue against them, it gives you incredible power over that kind of dark cloud that can hang over your life.
For example:
"Fuck it, nothing matters and the world is going to shit. Well… what caused me to think that? Could be bad sleep last night, a bad mood from getting in that argument with my friend earlier, too much time on social media reading negative news, and a general sense of exhaustion.
Ok… I might be biased in my thinking about these things without realizing it. If nothing matters, than there’s nothing to worry about. All my fuck ups are… whatever. There’s no way that I’m “supposed to be” that I’m failing at. Nowhere I’m “supposed to go”, which is actually kind of freeing. Actually, looking around I can find plenty of examples of people that think everything is meaningless but still enjoy their lives. They’re are many philosophies addressing this exact problem that I can explore.
There are a lot of bad things in the world… but also I have way more freedom and longer life expectancy than almost everyone else in human history. There are terrible things happening to the environment, but there are also millions and millions of dedicated people protecting the environment, and on the whole humanity has made a lot of progress in how we view that issue in just the last 25 years."
This is just a stream of thought example to demonstrate how it works. It’s very powerful, especially if you write the key points down. It gets much easier after doing it a few times. This is you restructuring your neural networks–its literally changing your mind. It’s eye opening to practice doing this and share it with others.
Next time something triggers these negative automatic thoughts, you’re much more likely to not only recognize that it’s happening, but also have a different way of thinking about it right there waiting for you. A doorway out of this dark loop of sadness.
I don’t know about you but I see the whole acknowledging of the path humanity has taken as a liberation. Do what you want. Don’t worry about the future. The now is what matters.
Keep doing what you need to enjoy the now and stop caring about things that are just meant to be. Things are just following their natural course and honestly we’ve had a remarkably long run lol!
See, the way I see it is that my concerns have mostly if not always been correct. Most people might not be as observant and able to deduct consequences but I have the unfortunate ability to know exactly how something is going to pan out and when I can’t control the catalyst it causes me to have to come up with damage control methods.
Don’t pretend like everything is ok. Your house needs constant maintenance or it could be costly or even dangerous, pets need constant observation to catch things early, not having a gas detector when you own a gas stove is idiotic and you should always be ready in case of the very likely such as break ins, electrical fires, broken pipes, and yes… car catching on fire. I told my SO the car smelled like gas, he said I was being paranoid.
I was the only one who detected the gas being left on in a kitchen full of people. Most people don’t pay attention and leave you to have to be always on alert.
Every time I just let it go or think to myself it’s nothing it ends up being something I could have prevented. I learned to listen to that anxiety and do something.
Thank you for sharing this… I like really needed this and opened lemmy in the middle of a really bad depressive episode and this was on top of my feed… Saving this for future me and friends.
I hope you don’t mind me sharing something I’ve learned that I think is truly fascinating and very powerful: If you can recognize your negative “automatic thoughts” and what triggers them, and then argue against them, it gives you incredible power over that kind of dark cloud that can hang over your life.
For example:
"Fuck it, nothing matters and the world is going to shit. Well… what caused me to think that? Could be bad sleep last night, a bad mood from getting in that argument with my friend earlier, too much time on social media reading negative news, and a general sense of exhaustion.
Ok… I might be biased in my thinking about these things without realizing it. If nothing matters, than there’s nothing to worry about. All my fuck ups are… whatever. There’s no way that I’m “supposed to be” that I’m failing at. Nowhere I’m “supposed to go”, which is actually kind of freeing. Actually, looking around I can find plenty of examples of people that think everything is meaningless but still enjoy their lives. They’re are many philosophies addressing this exact problem that I can explore.
There are a lot of bad things in the world… but also I have way more freedom and longer life expectancy than almost everyone else in human history. There are terrible things happening to the environment, but there are also millions and millions of dedicated people protecting the environment, and on the whole humanity has made a lot of progress in how we view that issue in just the last 25 years."
This is just a stream of thought example to demonstrate how it works. It’s very powerful, especially if you write the key points down. It gets much easier after doing it a few times. This is you restructuring your neural networks–its literally changing your mind. It’s eye opening to practice doing this and share it with others.
Next time something triggers these negative automatic thoughts, you’re much more likely to not only recognize that it’s happening, but also have a different way of thinking about it right there waiting for you. A doorway out of this dark loop of sadness.
I don’t know about you but I see the whole acknowledging of the path humanity has taken as a liberation. Do what you want. Don’t worry about the future. The now is what matters. Keep doing what you need to enjoy the now and stop caring about things that are just meant to be. Things are just following their natural course and honestly we’ve had a remarkably long run lol!
I’m so glad it helped you too!
See, the way I see it is that my concerns have mostly if not always been correct. Most people might not be as observant and able to deduct consequences but I have the unfortunate ability to know exactly how something is going to pan out and when I can’t control the catalyst it causes me to have to come up with damage control methods. Don’t pretend like everything is ok. Your house needs constant maintenance or it could be costly or even dangerous, pets need constant observation to catch things early, not having a gas detector when you own a gas stove is idiotic and you should always be ready in case of the very likely such as break ins, electrical fires, broken pipes, and yes… car catching on fire. I told my SO the car smelled like gas, he said I was being paranoid. I was the only one who detected the gas being left on in a kitchen full of people. Most people don’t pay attention and leave you to have to be always on alert. Every time I just let it go or think to myself it’s nothing it ends up being something I could have prevented. I learned to listen to that anxiety and do something.