Yeah, some confuse staying calm, with fear, submission, “not having the balls” or something else in that vein. My problem is, that i only know both extremes. I have thick skin, it takes a while until i get really emotional about something bothering me, but then I make decisions or treat people in a way that stuns them. This has cost me lots of friendships and some other things.

I would love to be able to gradually get angry about something, signalling to everyone involved that i have a problem with something and maybe be able to talk things out.