I’m an introvert and I like going to work to do my job and go home. I don’t understand people who use a job as a substitute for friendship or marriage. It’s a means to an end.

The sooner I do my duties, the longer my downtime is going to be, and I love having my downtime.

Many of my colleagues see me and immediately start asking questions I don’t want to answer, but neither do I want to hurt their feelings, I mostly want to be left alone. In the past this has been deconstructed as arrogance and people with fragile egos feel insulted by my indifference to them and that I prefer to work than to talk to them.

The world is made by extroverts. I have observed that people are eager to help you if you give them attention. I don’t get it, but neither I’m not going to change how extroverts think or feel.

If I give them the attention they need for as long as they need it I’m going to end up with daily headaches and neither my job nor theirs is going to be done.

I want to appear approachable, but keeping the info I feed them to a minimum. How do I do that?

What do you talk about to your coworkers?

What do you say to stop conversation organically? (meaning they don’t get offended).

  • 6H2Od9XeDu@feddit.deOP
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    9 months ago

    and it would be mind numbing to try to work straight for 8 hours at a time.

    absolutely, that’s why I don’t want to quit, because where I am there’s lots of downtime, more and longer if I finish my job fast.

    It also helps pass the time. Pleasant social interactions are fun and entertaining for most people.

    again, absolutely: pleasant, not faked, but apparently I’m gonna have to learn to fake it. I don’t care about who is dating who or what a daughter gave a mother for her birthday. Who cares?

    A lot of people also know how it feels to be left out, and try to include outsiders if they think someone might be feeling lonely.

    wow, I might have to explain to them they’re not excluding me when they don’t talk to me and that I actually prefer it.

    “I don’t like talking about myself,” is a perfectly reasonable thing to say.

    only that I’ve been bullied in my past for being an introvert and keeping to myself and I don’t have reasons to believe this time would be different. Each time I’ve opened up to people it’s been used to gossip against me and to hurt me. Are you an introvert?

    Recognize that their interest in you is a kindness, at least from their perspective, and to treat it like a burden is an insult.

    hard disagree, they’ll use it to gossip about me against me and to hurt me.

    I’m however happy you’ve had an easy life.