They deserve it. It seems like so many transphobes only want to recognize the existence of detransitioners to use them as a transphobic tool to support their close-minded worldview.
It honestly must be very scary for pro-trans detransitioners to speak on their experiences. They’ll get right-wing asshats pulling a “told you so” on them and also those same righties attempting to use them to push an agenda.
Not only that, but we need to support them. Going through detransition, even not considering the social issues that one might have in doing that, is a really tough thing, and I think we should acknowledge it.
Everyone should be completely free to explore their gender and sexuality as they see fit. Questioning one’s situation should be seen as good. And if in the end of that questioning the answer is “I’m cis” or “I’m straight” then that’s totally fine too. And shouldn’t be seen as a problem. It doesn’t mean queer identities are invalid.
There’s also the fact that many detransitioners do so because of social for familial pressure, not because they aren’t actually trans. If you come out as trans, and your entire family and friend group decided to shun you, or your work isn’t supportive, etc., and you face massive amounts of hate and ostracism, you might decide that going back into the closet is the way to go so you don’t have to deal with that.
It’s all a nightmare of a situation that shouldn’t have to exist
I also heard that some people detransition after finding out they are nonbinary. One of my high school teachers has a friend who is a trans woman who stopped taking hormones because it changed her body more than she was comfortable with. I wouldn’t be surprised if there are detransitioners who detransition because they realize that medical transitioning wasn’t right for them.
And that’s not really “de” it’s just stopping where you’re comfortable at. Which is exactly what everyone should be doing anyway. “De” implies feeling like you completely made a mistake and want to undo what was done, simply stopping hormones doesn’t necessarily accomplish that and non-binary is a totally valid identity