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  • I’ve experienced that as well with emails. I’ve gotten faster over the years because of the amount I’ve had to send but have definitely spent 30+ minutes writing some of them. I will write it and then read it out loud to myself to make sure it makes sense and, like you said, doesn’t sound rude or aggressive. Realistically, no matter how careful you are people still might misinterpret it. I’ve never been diagnosed or sought to be diagnosed with ADHD so it’s hard to say. I’m too stubborn to seek a diagnosis and try meds because it’s just one more thing for me to forget to do 😅




  • Yes! The guilt eats you alive and completely paralyzes you! I never could figure out what made me tick to help improve my study habits. But I just graduated so I managed and now I’m done forever! You will always wish you started sooner, no matter how early you start.

    For little things like emails, consider how they take barely 5 mins to do. We have 1,440 minutes in a day and we can’t even take 5 to send the freaking email?! I use that mindset for chores too. I gripe and moan about the kitty litter box but it takes 60 seconds to just scoop the damn thing.


  • “Just do it” is such easy advice to give but I feel your pain OP. There are things I want to accomplish that I CANNOT get myself up to do. I can’t execute plans or schedules for things that don’t immediately threaten my livelihood. It’s a real PITA. Executive dysfunction is a term I’ve read about recently that describes this.

    I’m convinced the way we think about things is the driving force. For example, I’ve always struggled to work out regularly. What’s really been helping me the last month is the mantra “I’ll never regret working out but I absolutely will regret not working out”. So try to critically evaluate your thought processes behind the things you want to accomplish and see if there is another way of thinking about it that makes doing it easier.



  • Hahahah phew!! I use Memmy and I can reply from my inbox and it didn’t have the OP badge shown there.

    Agreed that no hostility should be shown to admins who run and operate their instances without expectations of payment. Harassment in general is completely unproductive in any scenario. I just graduated professional school and am awaiting state licensing before I can work (hopefully the next couple weeks), after which I will gladly donate!

    The biohazard in my mind was threads and it’s already been spilled. Instances defederating sooner rather than later us the containment. So destroy meta and we’ve destroyed the biohazard, hooray!


  • The balance of probabilities certainly makes sense and applies here. I don’t expect threads to last long.

    I see both sides to it. I agree a biohazard spill should be contained immediately instead of letting it spread. On the other hand, we don’t want to come off as immediately hostile and want to have solid reasons for why we do what we do.

    I’m enjoying the healthy conversation around it. I do have a hard time supporting the “wait and see” side and most things OP said are valid. Since threads isn’t immediately federating, we have some time before we start to see what the impact will be or if instance admins will change their minds.


  • I also want to defed from Threads, but I appreciate the mature and non-knee jerk reaction of these instance owners to stand by the “innocent until proven guilty” stance within the fediverse. I’m sure the leashes will be very short and defed will occur at the first sight of EEE. I think it’s appropriate to watch and listen before making decisions.

    I’m choosing to remain optimistic that they will recognize it and shut it down immediately. Even tho I too despise corporations and wish them nothing but failure. I avoid Facebook and instagram like the plague because it just breeds negativity and hatred. I don’t think for even a moment that Meta is trying to turn a leaf.