Politely disagree. Saying something (even generalizing, which always tends to be wrong somewhere) about homophobic people doesn’t say anything about non homophobic people. You don’t have to identify with every gay person on earth, and you shouldn’t. There are gay people who just so happen to be assholes, too. Their existence doesn’t say anything about you at all.
It is victim blaming
I don’t think so personally. They are still the oppressor in the situation. “Being secretly gay” is an attempt to explain, not to shift blame to you.
we are not the reason homophobia exists or that people become extremely homophobic
I think it’s useful to seperate a causal explanation and the idea of responsibility. The fact that people are individuals and not unanimous blobs is - purely causally speaking - the reason why animosities based on our differences exists. Does that mean that the victims of hate are to blame? Definitely not. It’s always, always the responsibility of the one who commits discrimination.
It is not oppressed people that cause their own oppression
I agree, but more precisely it is homophobic people, gay or not, who cause the oppression of non homophobic gay people. I think this is true independently if the stereotype is true.
we don’t in some way “deserve” it.
Absolutely agree. Nobody deserves that.
If they do not see themselves as gay, they are not.
The idea is that they kinda see themselves as gay, or are afraid they might be, or subconsciously know they are; and because of extreme toxic masculinity and sexism they get hateful and aggressive.
There surely are non gay homophobic people as well though. After all, some hetero people happen to be assholes as well.
The difference is that you as the owner are in that case not actively financing an industry that’s slaughtering other animals in order to feed your pet.
That a cat while roaming outside will inevitably kill other animals is not unethical on the cats part. It’s debatable if it’s unethical on the owners part, which is why many people nowadays discuss only keeping cats as indoor pets anyway. It is however a completely separate issue to vegan cat food.
Maybe you think vegans ask for vegan pet food because they want their cat to “be vegan”? Because if so, that’s a misunderstanding. Vegan ethics are always about our own consumption decisions and behavior. Never about those of animals. (Which is why “dO yOu JuDgE LiOnS fOr KiLliNg ZeBrAs As WeLl?” is never a good argument. We don’t.) As caretakers for our pets some of their decisions naturally fall to us. You’re always deciding for them which brand of pet food your cat will get. For example I avoid nestle owned brands, wether my cat supports that decision or not. If he was an outside pet I’m sure he would at least try to murder something occasionally. That has nothing to do with my responsibility to honor the ramifications of my own ethical considerations though. My cat is too dumb for that - literally. It doesn’t release me from the responsibility.
(He gets meat btw, he has chronic digestive problems and needs special food anyway - before anyone here accuses me of murder and torture or something.)