I am a trans woman (she/her) in my late forties, living in the middle of nowhere in Scotland with my husband, puppy and three cats. I am poly, pan, queer, kinky and witchy but despite all that I mostly live a quiet life. I enjoy watching esports, cooking, music, photography and techy stuff.

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Cake day: June 15th, 2023

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  • Surely they need to be completely transparent at this point to avoid the Ratners effect? I am certainly never buying SanDisk / Western Digital labelled storage ever again and I will be researching carefully next time I need storage to make sure I don’t buy relabelled stuff.

    I currently have SanDisk microSD cards in my DSLR so I will have to think about getting a different manufacturers card in there and saving to both in parallel just in case. I might just bin the sandisk card just to be sure, though. Their name is in the gutter already - do they realise that?





  • Also don’t feel like you have to tie yourself down to your family. My mum turned out to be an utter shit so I was delighted to be free of that surname choice anyway, and my dad had passed away years before I came out as trans and, while he had a kind heart, who knows how he would have reacted to the news? Don’t be afraid to forge your own path. Don’t feel like you have to associate your new name - first name or surname - with your assigned-at-birth names, even if your current relationship with your family is good.


  • Well, I knew from a story my mum told me ages ago my dad wanted us all to have biblical names, which is weird because he wasn’t religious in the traditional sense at all. He must have just liked the idea? And sure enough my assigned-at-birth name as well as my sisters names were from the bible. I wrote a list of female names from the bible that I could remember as a way of honouring my dad’s memory and one just popped out at me.

    I had already picked my mums maiden name as my last name because I was changing that too, because my original last name had a glottal thing in it that always annoyed me and sort of tripped me up? And when I put them together it was so obviously … me.

    Speaking to other trans and non-binary people that seems to happen a fair amount, but don’t worry if it doesn’t. Names grow on you especially with use. As it happens I got married, changed my last name and added a middle name, and I prefer this version a lot more so who knows.