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Cake day: August 15th, 2023

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  • The few people I know with this issue fall into one of two categories.

    1. Access issues. There are some kinds of road blocks accessing a quality shower/bath. Which makes showering/bathing is an uncomfortable activity for some reason. Maybe it’s that their shower is really small and cramped, with a low quality shower head. Maybe it’s an issue where the water quality is low in the shower they have access to. Low quality water can have an odor people find uncomfortable, or it can dry out their skin making their skin feel dry even while under the water. People naturally avoid things that make them uncomfortable even subconsciously.

    2. Mental Health. I suffer from this occasionally. I love showering, it’s extremely relaxing, but for whatever reason the process of getting into the shower is such a huge barrier to overcome. You feel like absolute dog shit. You know that a shower would make you feel better, but for whoever reason no matter how hard you try, you cannot push through the transition of wanting to shower, to taking that first step towards doing it. And it all compounds together to make you feel like an even bigger piece of shit for not being able to do something so basic. Until eventually you’ve doom scrolled the entire day away and now it’s dark out and you’re tired and you’ve got a stress headache because you’ve barely even ate today either while you just stewed in your own filth.








  • You are right to consider the age gap, I would say the best bet for you to mitigate your concerns is to not put any sort of commitment in place until she’s old enough that you’re not concerned about the age gap anymore.

    At 19 years old, you’re not even old enough to drink if you’re interested the US. I would probably say give her until 22 before you do anything that’s going to evolve any sort of commitment or possible long-term consequence for either of you. In the meantime, there’s nothing wrong with some low commitment dating.