Health is still absolutely caning me. Constant pain and not able to keep on top of things. I hate using disposable products… Landfill and paying for stuff that gets literally thrown in the bin… but at the moment it’s kind of necessary.
I’m cutting down on that wherever I can but it’d be nice if I had a little countertop dish drawer to run every time I had a full load. It would save water too. Wonder if I could get it funded. I’ve been budgeting well lately so could perhaps save to get one but vet bills always take priority and it also seems I’ve got stuck in tightarse mode.
hugs, we do what we can do.
have you been able to go outside and look at the aurora? 😊🌌
Yeah, it just sucks you know.
The pics are pretty but I haven’t gone outside. It’s a bit fresh tonight, feral neighbours have been screaming and the fuzzball would try to follow me out
rice is in the cooker, I made some satay sauce and cooked the chicken. Now I have to saute the vegies n stuff and dinner is ready.
So, I have a small guilty pleasure now: I downloaded tiktok and am loving all the videos with pets tbh.
TW: DV
But I watch one video by an Aussie lady about women’s rights and whatnot, and now tiktok thinks that’s all I want to watch. 😭 Like, 4b movement stuff, the rate of homicides, etc. It’s interesting but like, also triggering of course. I’m in the process of re-teaching the algorithm or whatever.
But I also feel like I don’t have a right to talk about my experience, not because of what they’ve said or anything like that. But because my abusive ex was male and male presenting for the VAST majority of our relationship, until the last 6 months where they only came out to me about being a tran-woman. So, like, they’re part of this super marginalised group, having told their friends I was transphobic. I don’t feel like I can talk about it with anyone (besidesy dad and my partner), without, like, playing into that lie they told. I believe they are, of course, trans, but also that they use it as an excuse to not take accountability for their heinous actions. That if I did file a police report, that I’d be called transphobic and a false reporter. What a strange position to be in. Just needed to have a small ranty rant about it, because I haven’t seen anyone else anywhere have, or talk about, an experience like mine without also being transphobic. I always feel like if I talk about it, if I don’t use the right pronouns, or if I clarify “well they were male, but are now female” it’s about women-on-women DV. Which, it wasn’t, but is it?
Ugh, just gonna keep saving up for a psych appointment and hopefully I can start feeling better about being in this tiny bubble of one.
This is the problem with identity politics and only seeing a person through the lense of whatever group they are in.
Being a minority doesn’t let you off the hook and in most cases certainly doesn’t make you special.
I’m more interested in what someone does rather than what they say they are.
DV absolutely occurs in queer/same sex relationships, and women absolutely do abuse partners. Dickheads come in every stripe and nobody is automatically exempt from being abusive due to their identity.
Police are pretty shit with DV/SA reports in general and there’s no guarantee that a report would go anywhere. But if you felt you wanted to report there are LGBTIA+ liason officers now and if there were sexual offences you can talk to SOCIT.
It’s really hard when your abuser is marginalised but it absolutely does happen, marginalized people can and do punch down on other people, and you have every right to talk about what was done to you. You’re not going after her because she’s trans. You were harmed by what she did, and struggling to even talk about it for fear of feeding into existing transphobic narratives.
A dickhead is a dickhead, no matter what gender they are/were/present as. Bad behaviour/manners should be called out. There’s far too much victim blaming happening. Not a situation I’ve ever faced, so please take that for what its worth, if anything.
Yup
Them being trans doesn’t mean that what they did to hurt you wasn’t also abusive. Women - including trans women - are entirely capable of abuse.
I believe you. You deserved better.
Is Biggest Morning Tea stuff happening at the moment? There’s an event I might go to happening today and I think it’s part of the morning tea stuff
Gym achieved. Gentle gym, but gym.
Now I can slow it down a tad
So are we likely to see some aurora tonight?
Where does one go to see it? Do you just have to go somewhere with no light pollution?
Edit - and it can’t be cloudy too, duh
Somewhere looking to the south. Just went outside and didn’t see much (lots of trees tho)
For the last biggish one people seemed to be heading towards wilsons prom.
So I have to decide if a 4 hour a day commute a few days a week is ok or to look for another job. They changed the rules on me and went all return to office. It’s a damn tech job - no office presence even required.
I don’t want to give up my dog :-(
@Mittens_meow @Seagoon_ Given you live two hours away (is that by train or car?), are they willing to make an exception?
Car to train. Not sure that the Monash fwy would be faster, plus getting parking somewhere. Seems not negotiatble, message is being reinforced via multiple levels of upper management. Wondering if it’s an excuse to reduce head count without redundancies.
@Mittens_meow That’s pretty horrendous. In a previous life, I was doing around 2.5- to 3-hours commute each day, and that was bad enough!
How are you enjoying the role otherwise? Are there any other issues?
I actually really like the role, it’s different and challenging and I love learning new stuff. It’s super disappointing that this has happened.
I was in this sort of situation and moved to an all remote job. As much as I liked the old place the lifestyle improvements and flexibility was worth it
24 hours:
7 hours sleep.
1 hour preparing for work.
8 hours working.
4 hours commuting.
2 hours preparing and eating food.That leaves 2 hours for everything else. I could not do this.
That’s a fuck load of travel. I’d look for something else quietly.
I did almost that for about 6 months when I got my first ‘real’ job before finding a place to move. Almost killed me, especially since Sat got lost to house hunting. Zero life. Do not recommend.
I did a few months of 9 hour days with a 3 hour commute. It paid the bills, but I can’t say it was much fun. It did have a major bonus that I could get time off to go to job interviews though. When I strarted my new job with 8 hours work 15 minutes from home it felt like I’d gone part time!
Ouch. It might be ok for a couple of days a week but it is not ideal. You basically have to write off those days completely and you also can’t do any of the little chores you would have otherwise done around or after work either (things like doing your washing) so you lose a little bit of other days too.
If it’s two days a week out of five, it’s do-able but that’s still a massive loss of free time. Is this travelling by PT? Can you start work on PT in order to spend less time at the office?
It is PT. Something to ask about……
Yikes. It sounds like it would massively cut into the rest of your life for no good reason.
Is it possible to start hunting for a new job on the down low now - and then either use a job offer as leverage to keep work from home, or jump to another role?
Salada was designed perfectly for Vegemite and cheese lol
Butter or no butter?
Butter definitely. Otherwise way too hard to spread the Vegemite.
Dammit! Save game lost because I ignored phone low power warning.
Breakfast 🍏🍎🍐🍊🍋🍈🫐🍓🍇🍉🍌🍒🍑🥭🍍🥥🥦🥑🫛🍆🍅🥝🥬🥒🌽🥕🥐🍠🫚🥔🧅🥯🍞🥖🥨🧀🧇🥞🧈🍳🥚🥓🥩🍗🍖🫓🍕🍟🍔🌭🥙🧆🌮🌯🥗🍲🍜🍝🥘🍛🍣🍱🥟🦪🍥🍘🍚🍙🐠🍤🪼🦀🐙 🍗🥮🍢🍡🍧🍰🧁🥧🍦🍨🎂🍮🍭🍬🍫🥜🌰🍪🍿🍯🥛☕️🍵🍺🍶🥤🧋🧃🥂🍷🥃🍸🍹🧉🔋
An electric banana smoothie please.
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Fettucine Bolognese por favor
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Umm chef… You’ve served me spaghetti Bolognese…
the current geomagnetic storm has stripped it down
it started correct
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Grilled mooncheese please
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So jealous of these aurora photos. Tried from my place just now with phone and getting nothing. I think there’s too much light pollution and no view of the horizon because it’s a built up area. Boooo.
Yup and that’s why I didn’t bother from where I am.
Same here, also reluctant to go outside. It’d be cool to live somewhere else and learn a bit of astronomy
The new Sonos app is…confusing
@Seagoon_ So I really slept in this morning.
Is everyone’s electrical gadgets still working? No big blackouts?
everything seems fine and normal here
Ted Cat is starving and complaining, he can’t believe he’s not allowed to eat Bill’s food. They are both on a diet and slowly losing weight.
@ajsadauskas @Seagoon_ Did someone say something? Is there anyone out there? 🤷♀️
omg aurora
I’m too close into the city but I can see the clouds are tinged with pink
Me too. In my area it’s too many Mcmansions, boxy townhouses and people who don’t care about power bills/the environment with every outside light on. Neighbours on my western side, lookin’ at you. Is your gourmet dog afraid to pee in the dark‽
I have brightly lit up skyscrapers in the way
Calm down people the Sun is just having a little tanty.
