The hardest part is getting up from bed. Everything else is much easier.
You may, in fact, want to consider medication
Serious answer, it’s called behavioral activation, and it means you just do it without thinking about what’s going to happen next. Sounds dumb but it works, and it’s the basis of “mindfulness” which you’ve heard so much about, the opposite of anxiety and dread. Just do what you’re doing. Whatever comes next, you can do that then, but don’t think about it now because it’s not happening now.
I also find this is a good way to cope with being born into slavery.
Because we are slaves, and we can work or die. Those are our choices until we start killing a lot of rich people
Because we are slaves,
This. The whole talk about medication is drapetomania in disguise.
killing a lot of rich people
Can’t support that
Can’t support that
Why?
That’s the neat part. There is no point. You get to define what matters in your life!
Optimistic nihilism. 💫
(this is not meant to downplay the real strife brought about by the rich trying to min/max society and looking at human beings like expendable resources)
Drugs.
I also feel like evrything is so difficult, and I wonder how people can do stuff. It feels like time pass faster for me. I struggle with basic stuff and lose so much time trying to simply do my basic survival, that when I’m finally ready to do something for the day, it’s already in the afternoon. Fells like something is deeply wrong with me
That sounds like me during my decades of raw dogging ADHD and a bouquet of comorbidities.
It can still be that way for me, but with medication and vigilance and mindfulness and constantly trying to reverse engineer my brain/body’s needs, I had a much more productive 2025 than previous years. (productive at the things I care about, not just becoming a good cog in the machine at work)
constantly trying to reverse engineer my brain/body’s needs,
Would you mind talking a bit more about that part? How does that work for you?
Legitimate, if you have not already and have access, see a doctor about ADHD. You sound a lot like me and this is what I was diagnosed with when I described these symptoms to a psychiatrist. I’m also autistic but these symptoms don’t sound like autism.
Seconded. This sounds so familiar
I went to a doctor like 4 years ago and ended up diagnosed with autism. No mention of adhd.
Fells like something is deeply wrong with me
I don’t have an answer, but I can tell you, you are not alone in that feeling.
And remember, if people make you feel like you’re not enough, there’s a good chance they’re just dealing with their own bullshit in their own head.
It doesn’t make it okay, but I sometimes find it comforting to remember.
Thank you for your words
I feel that too. I don’t think that there’s something wrong with you. There’s something wrong with society. Nobody does things best the same way, and society has a heavy preference for a specific way of doing things.
I agree, but I recognize that not all of my struggle comes from society. Some basic things, like having to eat, are way too demanding for me. It’s complicated to talk about this online, because everyone will try to identify themselves somehow, but some of my experiences will differ too much from how people manage to live and do stuff. a couple of years ago, I tried living by my own, and ended up being hospitalized, because I wasn’t taking care of myself. Sometimes, I spend 2 of 3 days barely eating anything, because there was no more food and I had to do groceries. I would skip many meals often, because preparing things took so much from me. My hygiene got poor, because I didn’t manage to clean stuff so often. When I had to work, The day was lost, and I barely could do something else for the day. I ended up being retired for medical reasons (it’s hard to explain this to people from other countries, but I live from government benefits since then. Might look like a good thing, but it took a heavy psychological toll on me, because I wanted to do something, have a career of some sort). I ended having to move back to living with my mom, and that feels really shameful, while I also lost the minimal freedom I acquired,
Sorry for writing too much,
I feel you and I’m surprised how many like-minded people here are. Just in case: have you checked spoon theory? Is there’s something wrong with you and your resources?
have you checked spoon theory?
Just checked it. Seems interesting. It’s pretty much how I get overwhelmed by the simple survival stuff and end up not managing to do other things…
Is there’s something wrong with you and your resources?
What do you mean by that?
You say something is wrong with you. Not having enough resources to get through the day is not normal. I’m in therapy because of this. Don’t get me wrong, I won’t diagnose anyone but your message spoke to me and if it is Bad enough for you it might be worth going to the doctor and check if your brain might lack something that other people have. Chemistry can heavily influence your life.
Oh, I see. I had a really bad experience with the multiple doctors and therapists I’ve been, so I’m very resistant to do it again these days… things are less bad without the treatment and medications the gave me
Have school-aged kids. Getting up early will become the best part of the day. The silent first coffee before all hell breaks loose.
As a parent, 100%! The great silence before the storm is the best part of waking up lol then gets on the bus and I’m bored :/
Spite, mostly.
It’s a valid survival strategy
Only 8 hours until I get to go home and be myself!
I whiteknuckle through it and I’m pretty sure it’s killing me
There’s no way I’m reaching 50 without a stroke or a heart attack
It’s like trying to swim upstream while almost drowning all the time
Life is hard.
Antidepressants!
ADHD meds, both stimulants and non stimulants, can’t shit anymore but I’m not hungry anymore either so it balances out.
Mine make me need to shit sometimes.
About to say. They’re stimulants. They make you shit. I don’t take mine on the weekend so Monday is usually a relief.
I’m on fluoxetine and it really is helping.
Do antidepressants suppress the bad thoughts or do they improve the good thoughts?
For me, I have ADHD and just recently developed depression. Maybe due to dopamine burnout or past trauma, but it doesn’t matter. Never really had “bad thoughts” but more just felt lazy and unable to do anything. After being on antidepressants for a few months, I feel motivated to do stuff again. I upgraded my system to Linux. I started working on a side project. I’m more motivated to talk to people when out at bars and breweries. I’ve made several new friends and have gotten to know regulars at these places. I feel like I’m in my early to mid 20’s again with my energy.
I did therapy for 2 months when I first got on it because my doctor wanted me to, but the therapist said we’re good for a while unless I have something come up in the future.
Sometimes you just need a chemical rebalance. I used to do psychedelics a few times a year for this, but now I can’t being on antidepressants SSRI. It’s definitely worth the trade off of feeling good all of the time instead of incredible on rare occasions.
Yeah the lack of motivation and no socialization is the biggest hurdle of my life at the moment, i didn’t know ssris could help with energy and motivation like that, I thought you needed stims for that, I’ll def talk to a therapist about that once i get a job and get insurance again
Ever done psychedelics? It’s like a tiny dose of that essentially. But all the time. Just the neurogenesis.
I haven’t had the opprtunity to try psychedelics yet, do you mean they help with energy and motivation like the meds do but not as effective. Any specific ones you recommend, I know mushrooms are legal in some states recreationally
We usually describe them as mood stabilisers, they don’t make you feel happy but they make you more able to deal with the hard stuff.
I had depression as of unmedicated ADHD, treating the ADHD made it so that I rarely have “bad thoughts” and when I do, I can move on from it.
I have adhd and depression as well. Back when I had a job I got Adderall through my insurance, it did improve my energy, focus and mood a lot, hopefully I can get on that again soon
I’m on paroxetina
My thought exactly! :D
Spite.
Careful. From experience, when spite fails, it shatters.
This is pretty much it. I do it because fuck you.
While I also work on trying to unionize my entire industry.
Have you tried taking on crushing debt?
Ask your doctor if constant overwhelming financial pressure is right for you.
The fear of not getting paid and this losing everything is a pretty good motivator. It’s still hard and I often think maybe I should just kill myself cause what’s even the point when this is all life is, but then I just force myself into the shower and take off to my job.
Please try find a hobby for your spare time. Then you can live for that. Even if it’s just a passing hobby, it could get you out of your rut and make way for a new hobby you may encounter.
I have hobbies, but none that really feel like a purpose. I liked going on walks when it was warmer out, finding new trails all the time. Tried replacing it with the gym now that it’s colder, but it’s nowhere near the same. Other than that, it’s just writing about the entertainment stuff I mess with like videogames, movies, shows, and books on sites like Letterboxd, Goodreads, and Backloggd.
Have you considered writing stories? Maybe that could be how you leverage your enjoyment of writing towards something that you feel has more purpose.
I tried a long time ago, but I’m not creative enough for fictional stories and get distracted when researching things I have a massive interest in. It’s why I’d prefer something like school (or documentaries but I can only find a few that interest me like American Animals, Aliens of the Deep, and National Gallery), but I got no money for that. Tried some free online teaching things and stopped once I went a few days without it due to a friend dying. If I’m not forced to do it like I would a structured environment then I give up pretty easy.
Just write whatever, doesn’t ever have to be a complete story, can just be snippets or ideas. Just little bits here and there to exercise that part of your brain. And who knows maybe eventually you’ll start coming up with ideas you think are cooler.
I always suggest creative hobbies that build up a skill more so than just active ones because active ones (unless there’s problem solving involved like bouldering for example), it gets to a point where you just doing repetitions of the act. If there’s a creative aspect to it you can always build upon it on it in new and interesting ways as you become more proficient.
I don’t know if I’d say creative storytelling is the only way to become better at writing with others just becoming repetitive. I’ve written about the films I’ve watched very frequently since 2021 and I feel the writing I do now is infinitely better than the drivel I started out doing. Still nowhere near what a professional who actually studied film for years and deeply understands the ins and outs of it could write, like something from Roger Ebert, but I like what I’ve put up at least within the last few months.
I didn’t mean to make it come across as creative writing was the only way to get better at writing as a whole. Was more trying to say that exercising the creative side would make you better at that side in particular because you said you found yourself not good at creative writing. I was trying to encourage you into expand your hobby of writing into creative writing as well, if you felt like you were being held back on trying it more because of that.
