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Iced Raktajino@startrek.website to Showerthoughts@lemmy.world · 18 hours ago

When someone replies "that's not dull" to a post in Dullsters/Dull Men's Club, are they complimenting you or gatekeeping?

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When someone replies "that's not dull" to a post in Dullsters/Dull Men's Club, are they complimenting you or gatekeeping?

Iced Raktajino@startrek.website to Showerthoughts@lemmy.world · 18 hours ago
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  • Fleur_@aussie.zone
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    3 hours ago

    Not a shower thought

  • Iconoclast@feddit.uk
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    I count that as gatekeeping. It’s the reason my contribution to that community has degreased over 90%. If it was just “men’s club” then I’d have a ton of stuff to post there but nowdays I just consider it all too interesting to post there but not interesting enough to post anywhere else so I just don’t post it anywhere then.

    • mangaskahn@lemmy.world
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      Start your own community. I’d follow mildly interesting men’s club.

  • Onno (VK6FLAB)@lemmy.radio
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    18 hours ago

    Yes

  • Wolf314159@startrek.website
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    12 hours ago

    They’re admitting how dull they are.

  • wildncrazyguy138@fedia.io
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    This guy’s a total shower.

  • queerlilhayseed@piefed.blahaj.zone
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    17 hours ago

    If someone replies with just the words “that’s not dull”, I interpret it as more of a gatekeep-y response. The ones I naturally read as compliments usually have a little more flair, e.g. “Way too interesting to post here” “this is more of a c/extraordinarygentlemensclub post”

    • FinjaminPoach@lemmy.world
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      Checked to see if that was a real comm, i’m dissapointed.

      • IrateAnteater@sh.itjust.works
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        Be the change you want to see in the world

  • Rhynoplaz@lemmy.world
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    12 hours ago

    We’re jealous.

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    14 hours ago

    I’ve only seen it in a you’re selling yourself short fashion.

    As long as it’s something you did, people seem quite relaxed about what gets posted.

    • Iced Raktajino@startrek.websiteOP
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      I’ve only seen it in a you’re selling yourself short fashion.

      Yeah, that’s usually how I see it, or maybe just how I’ve always interpreted it.

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    15 hours ago

    well I should start by saying this is not really a shower thought and would make more sense in ask lemmy but for myself its kinda a compliment.

    • Rhynoplaz@lemmy.world
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      12 hours ago

      Wait. Are you complimenting or gatekeeping?

      • HubertManne@piefed.social
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        12 hours ago

        a bit of joking because of his topic and a bit of gatekeeping because it is the wrong community for a question but he is saying its rhetorical.

    • Iced Raktajino@startrek.websiteOP
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      A question can be a shower thought, especially if it’s a rhetorical question.

      Not to mention, the Philosophical Raptor meme format is pretty much just interrogative shower thoughts

  • 😈MedicPig🐷BabySaver😈@lemmy.world
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    Mostly a compliment. You can get a gut feeling from comments that just say: “Not dull.” or similar.

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    Depends if it’s truly dull or not

  • paraphrand@lemmy.world
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    Matters of taxonomy.

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    it’s like the unpopular opinion sub, technically you have to upvote stuff you don’t like

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    /c/wrongcommunity

    • expatriado@lemmy.world
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      17 hours ago

      as a compliment?

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    18 hours ago

    Most likely they are pointing out that you lack a certain subtlety of understanding and have made a mistake.

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