Just wondering about this.

I have a friend who sometimes just specifically craves a certain dish from a certain food chain. (Like wicked wings from KFC or something)

Or they suddenly feel like watching a specific show (Like Boston Legal)

How does that work?
I never seem to experience something similar to that.
Is it common to feel like that?

  • Melobol@lemmy.ml
    2·
    11 days ago

    On my commute I like to play a game “what Iam in the mood for?” - I usually have to discard the first three things, then focus on foods I usually don’t think of.
    First three if interested: fried chicken, tenders chocolate bar (Milka) and cake. Tho sometimes I do play what kinda cake I would want.
    Usually I end up not eating anything ftom the list - but I have fun without gaining back weight.

    Probably your friend has a ‘background process’ that supplies him with what in the mood answers all the time.

    • AloneDownUnder@quokk.auOPEnglish
      2·
      10 days ago

      I wouldn’t even be able to come up with 3 things.

      I would just think, seems like I’m hungry or something. What should I do? Just go home and look at the fridge I suppose

      • Melobol@lemmy.ml
        2·
        10 days ago

        It is more active thinking than conjuring out of thin air. Like when I pass by an Italian restaurant i will ask: carbonara? (Pizza is on the too easy answer list) Meatballs? Canolis? Passing a burger joint would make me think of which burger would I get… like do I want a chicken sandwich (then I would realize that it is again on the too easy list) or do I want the burger from Shake shack? Or in a mood for InnOut?
        Who knows maybe if you try this method it will work for you. It doesn’t hurt or vosts money :D tho if you have bad impulse control I can’t guarantee that you won’t gain weight!

        • AloneDownUnder@quokk.auOPEnglish
          2·
          10 days ago

          That still sounds difficult. But maybe it’s just a skill I never practiced?

          When I think of some specific place, I don’t really come up with example dishes, unless I check the menu.

          Maybe that’s also the reason I never really needed impulse control to prevent me from indulging in something. I’ve always been somewhat underweight, and never smoked or drinked. Don’t drink caffeine either

          • Melobol@lemmy.ml
            2·
            10 days ago

            Maybe you have a different trigger.
            How about thinking about… Getting a 3d printer part, getting some new tool from a hardware store, getting a new game, trying a new table game, getting a new book, getting new equipment for … Sports / computing / gaming?
            Edit: some more: getting new make up, trying a new sport or hobby, thinking of upcoming projects for yourself, hone decoration, gardening, getting a new kitchen gadget, looking for a new sourdough/beer/wine/cocktail recipe…

            • AloneDownUnder@quokk.auOPEnglish
              2·
              10 days ago

              Not really.

              I mean I do like trying new things, but usually I don’t have energy for it. And when I think about something, I don’t really feel much, just analysing whether it would be useful for me.

              I used to spend more time gaming. But recently I realised I didn’t really want to play any specific game, I was just gaming to avoid feeling uncomfortable. Focusing strongly on anything basically has the same effect.

              I haven’t played any game for months now.

              • Melobol@lemmy.ml
                2·
                9 days ago

                I’m sorry to hear that. Honestly it seems you are in a bad spot at this moment.
                Depression can take many forms and loosing interest, turning everything dull / gray can be a symptom.
                Hope you can find joy in some little things! There are many things in life that if you notice them - they can brighten up your mood. (Just do not read any news, for real).
                There are good things out there, you might just need to look really hard.
                Maybe start small and start making a list of what good / happy things you saw a day - start with one and eventually you can find more. (There were days when I struggled putting down anything.)

                • AloneDownUnder@quokk.auOPEnglish
                  2·
                  9 days ago

                  I think that’s the reason I kinda stopped browsing on reddit and even Lemmy. I don’t really ‘feel’ sad when reading all this news, but I think it still brings me down somehow.

                  I don’t really have much people to talk to though, so I still try to ask questions from time to time.

                  I think it’s already nice that so many people answered.

                  • Melobol@lemmy.ml
                    1·
                    9 days ago

                    It is easy to feel isolated in today’s world. But you are not alone and all these answers proved it. :)
                    There are libraries, table games stores and other places where you can meet new people in real life - a new hobby or volunteering might also help.