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  • I haven’t yet looked at the map (I will!), but I’m struck by the idea that perhaps a map should exist that shows how USDA hardiness zones will shift. (I mean - according to best guesses.)

    If I had the ability, it would be interesting to make a map that asks users what their favorite local tree or animal is, and tells them how long it will be able to survive near them. Nearly impossible to account for all use cases, but I digress. Even simpler - Go for a map of state trees, flowers, and animals with extinction times for each to let folks know how long each state can hold onto its signature species. Well, for the ones that aren’t already gone, anyway.





  • A few weeks ago, a mom was at the hardware store with her young son – he was about five years old.
    For some reason, we crossed paths a few times, And each time she was talking with her son about the things they were buying in the projects that they were buying them for. But what Caught my attention first was he asked her ‘What if we can’t do it?’ and she responded with ‘Well then we learned how because we can figure it out.’
    This woman was endlessly, encouraging towards her son, and it was clear that she was setting him up to have an attitude of feeling like he was capable of tackling things in life. Which is something that I didn’t get us a kid - I was often told that I couldn’t do things or the things were beyond my capability and that if my mom didn’t know how to do something that it was basically impossible for me to figure out how to do it as well.

    I was so impressed by their interaction, that when I saw her later while I was checking out, I actually said something to her and after she figured out I wasn’t trying to pick her up, she took a moment and like… just looked satisfied. I was happy with the interaction.

    Beyond the fact that I mostly grew up without a father and my mother was very self focused to the point that it was pretty detrimental to me, I also grew up with undiagnosed ADHD that I only learned about in my early 40s. I am constantly discovering ways that I feel broken in the world, so you are not alone.


  • You are not a machine and you have the right to happiness. I hope you find it.

    I recommend therapy, if you haven’t tried it, and if it’s not working, I suggest different therapists, or different types of therapy. It’s okay to tell a therapist you’re not getting much out of their style/your relationship with them, and ask for their assessment of what you should be looking for. Then go look at that. Keep trying until you find something that clicks.
    If it helps, in your shoes I would view it as a continuation of your parental duties. When she moves out, or maybe has kids of her own, you can continue the relationship with her and your grandchildren as your genuine, authentic, and - perhaps - happy self.



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    2 months ago

    I have this notion that one day it would be nice to be neighborly enough to just put out a sign that says “fresh coffee”, “brunch”, “Beer on tap” or whatever as a signal that people should drop by for a chat.
    But I’m not really in my neighborhood’s demographic. It’s an older neighborhood, and the only folks close to my age seem like extreme introverts.







  • Not exactly.
    You’re supposed to apply the treatment and expose your scalp to low-angle sunlight that’s slightly mottled. Something about the incident angle of the light rays paired with the low intensity (due to the dappling) just supercharge the hair growth process.

    Experts recommend applying the mixture to your scalp an hour or two before sunset, and going for a walk through a wooded area. You should begin to see results immediately.
    The hair will grow in very fast during your walk with a large central cluster that may appear to be a black speck or oblong shape. It will sprout with 6 to 8 longer hairs that may appear to be segmented, and may even move with the lightest breeze or touch. This is normal. It’s common to feel a pinching, itching, or even burning sensation with each hair cluster that appears on your head. If new hair clusters stop appearing while outside, please reapply the sugar-water mixture to your scalp.

    It’s not recommended to shower after returning from the forest. This may wash away the delicate new hair clusters before they can root. You should also avoid this in the early morning, as the hair that grows under early morning light is silver and very fine. For some reason this very fine hair has a tendency to grow on your face, even if you have not applied the solution there.

    Source: I am lying.