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  • gaslighting noun gas·​light·​ing ˈgas-ˌlī-tiŋ : psychological manipulation of a person usually over an extended period of time that causes the victim to question the validity of their own thoughts, perception of reality, or memories and typically leads to confusion, loss of confidence and self-esteem, uncertainty of one’s emotional or mental stability, and a dependency on the perpetrator

    i’d say use of the word is actually accurate here















  • Yeah, I mean this might my personal deficiency that other people don’t have… but if I see a comment I disagree with and then I see that it has been upmodded heavily, I get a greatly increased urgency to shit on that comment to make people see how wrong it is. Totally toxic and encouraged by the scoring system.

    As with anything, this is intended behavior but perhaps taken too far by some people.

    A points system is the best way to get a sense of what other people think, and whether your views are generally accepted. When you’re in a social setting, you can tell from nonverbal clues (e.g. if you start saying something and people frown/inch away, you know they don’t agree). This is valuable.

    When you see something upvoted highly that you don’t agree with, OR something downvoted highly that you agree with, it could be one of two scenarios:

    A. You’re right, but people generally have misconceptions about the issue.

    B. You have a controversial take on the issue.

    It’s not always clear which of these it is. That’s why a lot of internet yelling matches devolve into some variation of “downvoted for truth” or “downvote all you want, facts are facts and you’re just blind” - people think it’s B, the person arguing thinks it’s A.

    To combat this, you need the following:

    1. Reasoning and critical thinking skills are important. At the most basic, learn to distinguish fact from opinion, but also learn to understand an argument.

    2. Be humble. Don’t approach it from a “I must win this argument” mentality - try and understand why they’re thinking that way.

    3. Pick your battles. Sometimes you just have to disagree and walk away. Nobody is going to give you a prize for making the last comment in an argument.

    Of course, it’s easier to just not look at the numbers. But then why not just… not use lemmy/reddit/internet forums? If this isn’t giving you any pleasure, why read/comment at all?








  • I sold my Pixel 6 pro to get a Samsung S23. Unfortunately the main issues I had with the pixel were hardware-related and recurring, and while samsung isn’t ideal, most of their issues could be solved with a one-time fix.

    Main issues I had with the Pixel:

    • Fingerprint sensor doesn’t work with privacy screens. Period. It’s not a question of buying cheap privacy screens, the Pixel fingerprint reader is optical and is just not compatible with privacy screens. Samsung uses an ultrasonic reader which is compatible with privacy screens.
    • The 6 Pro was unwieldy and ridiculously large, the smaller 6 doesn’t have the triple camera setup. Samsung is one of the few that doesn’t sacrifice phototaking ability in a smaller form factor.
    • That godawful new quick toggles UI is horrible. The quick toggles are ridiculously large, and who decided it would be a good idea to merge the wifi and internet toggles?! I managed to use adb commands to split the toggles in 12, but that broke with 13.

    Issues I had with the Samsung:

    • Bloat - this was mainly in the form of some preinstalled software, but unlike in the early days of Samsung, I could uninstall most of the bloat easily without resorting to root, adb, etc. No bloat (pixel) is still better than bloat that can be uninstalled (samsung), but this problem was permanently solved after about 10 minutes.
    • Some Samsung native apps have horrible permission settings - eg Samsung Pay requires access to your contacts, and if you deny it any one permission, the app just force closes. I got around this by uninstalling the offending apps and using alternatives (e.g. google pay) - again, a one-time issue. fuck the intrusive permissions.