✨sparklepower💥

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Cake day: September 1st, 2023

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  • this is a tough week for me. i got laid off last week after working for 4 years at that company. there are so many things that i am excited to do, now that i have the time, but i am feeling mentally and emotionally exhausted from dealing with the layoffs that have been happening for months. it’s time for me to rest and recharge now, but i don’t quite know how to do that, so i’m trying to figure that out. i am struggling with a lot of self-doubt and a critical inner voice. it’s hard to stay kind and motivate myself when i feel this way.


  • i joined beehaw and bluesky in the same week. i think it’s fun! lots of artists and indie game devs on there. i didn’t use twitter and don’t really like mastodon, so i don’t have any point of comparison. seems to me that moderation is lacking and/or apathetic. there’s been a heavy focus on US political issues. there’s a lot of stuff that i don’t want to see, but i mute often and that has improved my browsing experience. it’s been more friendly and welcoming than pretty much any other social media site i’ve tried so far. i also do not prefer microblogging platforms, but i’ve been having such a hard time with hateful comments across various platforms in the past few months, bluesky has been refreshing for me in that sense.












  • Hi Thelsim, sure I’m happy to experiment with you. BTW I am using the Sync for Lemmy app for browsing. I haven’t checked if things work differently on the Beehaw PWA.

    On one of the previous social media sites I was using, there were a number of users who would chase and hunt down other users across various social media platforms to harass and bully. They mainly seem to target queer or trans women.


  • This past week I started to see a new icon beside usernames that I haven’t seen before. It’s a little person with a 🚫. I searched online to find out what it means, and was not able to find any documentation about it. I assumed that it means this person has blocked me.

    I came here to beehaw after having several negative experiences on other social media platforms. There’s another website that uses a similar (incomplete) method of blocking. Someone used it to bully me by blocking me and making sure to post everywhere so that I would see the block symbol everywhere I go.

    Sure I could just block them right back, and I have been doing so. But in realizing that people I have blocked are aware of me doing so, I feel that blocking ppl on lemmy is not so much a safety feature as I had previously thought.

    I’m aware that creating and maintaining a social media platform is a huge undertaking, but I am also annoyed that so many of these devs creating the tools do not seem to care at all about their users’ safety and wellbeing.





  • i definitely think it’s possible. anything has the potential to grow and change if we choose to prioritize it.

    “you are not entitled to nice”

    a few months ago, on a different social media website, i posted something controversial (which IMO should not be controversial, anyways) and a friend made a very similar post. my friend was assumed to be a white man, while i was assumed to be a BIPOC woman. he received praise for his post and i did not see any criticisms of his views. my post was immediately criticized. various users told me that my drama wasn’t welcome here, i’m attention seeking, etc. when i asked one user why they were being so hostile to me, they responded with the quote above.

    this was just one of the many demonstrations of misogyny that i’ve faced in the past 3 months online. it’s tiring as hell to deal with it.