• CIWS-30@kbin.social
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    Honestly, while I don’t like what these guys do. I definitely think they have some mental illness issues that should be treated, and some of them may be neurodivergent or have some physical issues with their brains or bodies that might make them unhinged that could be possibly treated with medication.

    Dead serious here. People this bad generally have been abused / brainwashed when they were young, and some of them seem to have certain disabilities. Not saying they don’t act like total trash, just that there’s probably reasons behind it for at least some of these people. Plus, nowadays there are online cults waiting to pick them up and brainwash them when they’re vulnerable. Used to be you had to go in person to a cult in the past.

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    I love how conservatives are obsessed with reproduction, but not with being desirable. What do they think the Hugo Boss drip was for, anyway?

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      You hit a key word here too. Desirable.

      I don’t consider myself to be very good looking. My teeth are a bit crooked. I’m a bit pudgy ever since I left the military and to be honest, I am a terrible dresser. Comfort over everything else is my motto. I’m not attractive.

      I’ve never had issues meeting or dating girls. I try to be myself, honest and try to be a good partner. I haven’t always been the best at any of those things but I think most women look past my flaws and see that I’m a decent person with a good heart just looking for someone to spend our limited time with here in earth. I think that makes me desirable to a lot of women.

      At least in my experience it has. I’m married now to a woman who wanted just that so it worked out for me.

      She also likes my chubby belly.

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        Haha glad things worked out. Just in case it is any help dressing well isn’t impossible, I used to think it pretty much was.

        Rotate your clothing, donate what is old, pack up what isnt weather appropriate for your season instead of leaving it on the hanger, if it needs to be ironed and it isnt a suit dont buy it, try to invest in a good outfit not a single great piece. Especially the last part. You want people to look at you and think you look good not that your shirt looks good.

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      Being attractive isn’t easy as demanding lower standards. Especially if you have some problem that you really have no control over like a severe birth defect.

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        I can’t personally relate to that. I spent half my twenties celibate on purpose because I decided to raise my standards. The secret ingredient was that it wasn’t about looks, but personality. I’m now very happily paired up, and with some healthy lifestyle changes we’re both genuinely kinda hot.

        I don’t think the “incel class” understands this. Beauty comes from within.

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    I’ve seen a few incels that made it on the news complaining about Chads and stuff. These weren’t bad looking dudes. They were ugly as hell on the inside though. It’s such a shame they’re weaponized in society against women and themselves.

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    For the incel this meme is in reference to, let me explain why the entire concept of serial monogamy = polygyny -> incels is misogynist. The excerpt you posted used the example of James Taylor (I think) dating dozens of women, and so some poor man out there who wanted a family and a “beautiful wife” now has that many fewer options. This is based on the misogynistic premise that women lose value after dating and are no longer “wife material” because they are no longer virgins. Those dozens of women that James Taylor dated are still able to marry after they stop dating him, so there is no polygyny in effect. I won’t get into the additional problematic usage of how these men need “beautiful” wives, but the men’s appearance and value is never in question.

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    Well this is borderline unintelligible, I’ll see myself out I guess. Carry on, people.

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      I don’t know how to actually read this. Is the dad saying the kid is an incel? It’s hard to tell. Am I too sleepy?